Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Chapter 9
This chapter really opened my eyes to some of the worldly methods I had been using unknowingly. When using some of these wordly methods I have even thought of myself as being patient with Jackson, but I was actually robbing him of the discipline he so despirately longs for. I think I'm getting the hang of probing the heart and being pretty consistant in discipline. The author discussed expecting obedience immediately every single time the parent speaks and if there is delay in obedience the rod should be administered every time. I'm wondering if anyone finds this just a little bit extreme? And where should that consistant line be? I don't think I should have to repeat myself, but should a spanking be in order anytime I do have to repeat myself or just reminders to be obedient. And how many reminders do you give before you do use the rod? Just a few things I'm trying to sort out for myself...any thoughts?
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Yes, I too am guilty of using these worldly methods on occasion...I have been working much harder on thinking before I speak or react to things. I'm a big believer in thinking that children should listen and respond immediately but, a spanking EVERY time they delayed is just not logical to me. I guess in certain situations it might be called for. Maybe if they were about hurting someone or doing something dangerous. Ava has just recently started receiving spankings. The few times have been when I asked her over and over and over to get come get dressed and she starts throwing a tantrum and freaking out. I asked her nicely several times and she kept being disobedient. Getting dressed seems to be one of our biggest struggles. I don't know... Ava would be getting dozens of spankings a day if I gave her one every time she didn't listen the first time. This is all new to me and I have some questions myself. Like, before I spank her I tell her why she is getting a spanking " you're not being obedient to Mommy when I asked you" or whatever. But then afterwards what do I do? Sometimes she will just "ouch" and keep carrying on? Am i doing something wrong?
Hey Jess, I don't think you are doing anything wrong. You should tell her why she is getting the spanking. Sometimes I find it helpful to have Jackson sit on his bed if he is just freaking out about something. It gives him (and myself) time to gain control before I go in to talk with him or spank him. When I send him to sit on his bed I always tell him to think about being obedient (kind or unselfish (whatever the issue is)). After a few minutes I go in for the heart probing questions and then if spanking is in order I do that and then he must go apologize or model the proper behavior. You will probably need to modify what you do based on her age and understanding. She may not be old enough quite yet to sit and think about how she should behave, but she is certainly old enough to understand that she is getting a spanking for not obeying. I think the important thing after the spanking is for her to do what is expected of her...if she continues the fit she may need some "time out" time to chill before she completes the task. Just some thoughts:) Sorry I'm responding to this so late.
I am new here! What an awesome blog! Hope you are having a great weekend!
Hey Laura, I liked reading your blog. I agree quick discipline is best, it prevents a lot of frustration for the parent and the child. I am a little concerned about some crazy person reading your blog and making a public issue about our private choice to parent scripturally. While I know you probably don't care about what people think, I don't either, but just felt I should caution you- people are crazy! Love u!
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